Dear husband,
I never wrote any letter to you, but in this moment, my hands are writing by them own. Even though, Max, our son was deferred by MIT and denied by Carnegie, even though, I saw the disappointment and sorrow from your face, I, as a wife, want to say that you are the best farther for our son, and you are very well deserve this title.
You have started to teach him math competition and problem solving since he came to America. I remember that he was 5 and half years old, I took him to USA in the Christmas of the year of 2000. Ever since, you gave him the monkey-Peach, Cow-Grass problems in the car, in the dinner table, in his study room. I remember how he used his fingers, used his toes to come up the answers of the questions. His wining many of math competitions does not just happened, it is accumulated with your patient heart.
Along the way, when he complained that all the Chinese books don’t make any sense to him, you changed the math competition books to English books. When he played the video games under his cover and got caught by us, I saw your tears and frustration. When he argued his pants could be lower than his butt, I saw your anger. When he debated that he is using face book to discuss home work instead of chatting, we all know that most of the time is only an excuse. There are many events, big or small, like the tango between parents and kids, I would say that you are dancing very well.
I can not help to want to appreciate your hard work to teach our son as an integrated person, I believe he is learning from you for the day to day life that you are a very persistent farther, and you insist what you believe and never give up. I believe in his mind he will learn from you how a father’s unconditional love to him.
老公， 我们爱你
| 海云 (2012-12-20 19:35:35) |
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浪花，如果这真是你给劳工的信，我也有同感！你儿子也是今年考大学吗？ |
| 阿朵 (2012-12-20 19:49:11) |
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我被感动了，完全被感动了！ 浪花，我知道，这背后，意味着什么，你的心，你的信，上帝在做工！ 不论Max到哪里，trust me，有你们俩的爱，他都会很好！ God Belss your family！ |
| 海云 (2012-12-20 20:17:33) |
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看了阿朵的评论，我知道这确实是一封情真意切的信。浪花，我说有同感，是对一个爱儿子的好父亲，我家的爸爸也是对儿子很严格，儿子从小就被高标准严要求，很小的时候儿子因为爸爸对他和对他妹妹的双重标准，甚至怀疑自己不是爸爸的亲儿子！当然随着岁月的流淌，他也越来越看到中国父亲很多都是这样，对儿子寄予了很大的希望，故而要求严格，他慢慢地理解了他父亲的双重标准。 这次申请大学，做父亲的也是仿佛一个赶大车的，不断在后面挥舞着鞭子，催着儿子往前走，其实，我家的爸爸和儿子都是好脾气，很少听到父子俩会大声，但即便如此还是听到儿子告诉我：升大学的压力大多来自爸爸，爸爸制定的deadlines，要儿子严格遵守，爸爸不喜欢看到儿子主次颠倒，在外面打工...... 孩子很快就要离开家门，上大学去了，无论上哪所大学，我相信这段时间父亲对儿子的一步一步的严要求，对这个年龄喜欢自由散漫的少年人，一定会产生深远的影响的。 祝福你家父子俩。 |
| 浪花 (2012-12-20 23:22:27) |
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是的， 我们儿子今年考大学， 我老公比儿子还紧张， 老公和儿子脾气都不好。 深深觉得养儿的不容易。 我除了给他们做包子吃，不能做多少。只是在心理面默默祝福儿子和老公。 |
| 浪花 (2012-12-20 23:24:09) |
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谢谢海云和阿朵 ! :) |
| 好奇 (2012-12-21 02:13:10) |
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你的老公真好！我们的家庭都有相似处。只是我家老公没有push，但期望一样高啊！ 当父母的心情都一样。不过孩子的成功不应是我们的荣耀，他们自己的路，让他们自己走吧，我们把握大方向就好了。 大学对他们只是开始，不是句号。graduate school 更重要！这是我的观察总结。 |
| 牧童歌谣 (2012-12-21 03:00:23) |
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真情流露的信，你老公看了一定特别感动。 我老公也是对儿子期望特别大，对女儿宽松，闹得儿子很苦恼。 我也是没办法，只有默默为他们父子祈祷。 |
| 渺渺 (2012-12-21 03:59:14) |
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一位做妻子，做母亲的真情流露，感动！从儿子五岁半的成长说起，一路默默搀扶着孩子走向大学校门的父亲，有这样一位慈母严父，儿子怎么会不出色呢？ |
| 予微 (2012-12-21 04:40:03) |
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作为父母，都是期望儿女成龙成凤的！但不是每个父母都做得这么好！ 都是好爸爸好儿子，浪花的信好感人！ |
| 天婴 (2012-12-21 20:32:24) |
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感动！！！ |
| anna (2013-01-14 05:31:59) |
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谢谢浪花分享感人私信！作为大陆职业女性，我更有一层感情要表达，那就是对你们不必只生一个孩子的艳羡。尽管养育孩子不易，但独生子女家庭实在是不幸的，对父母孩子都不幸！安娜 |
| 杏子花开 (2013-08-15 06:17:22) |
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看到浪花高高大大，以为像东北人那么豪爽。没想到浪花这么感性，这么细腻！ 教育孩子中的一件件往事…… There are many events, big or small, like the tango between parents and kids, I would say that you are dancing very well. |