抑郁、出走、吸毒、酗酒、自杀、手机、电玩、网络霸凌，都是家长们不能承受之重。我们华人的好学生是否就免疫了呢？近期发生的很多事使我们无法再躲避。
“Teens who spend three hours a day or more on electronic devices are 35 percent more likely to have a risk factor for suicide, such as making a suicide plan. “
“Since 2007, the homicide rate among teens has declined, but the suicide rate has increased. As teens have started spending less time together, they have become less likely to kill one another, and more likely to kill themselves. “
“Although the rate increased for both sexes, three times as many 12-to-14-year-old girls killed themselves in 2015 as in 2007, compared with twice as many boys.”
周日，我们邀请了大家熟悉的Nancy Kislin 在密而本华夏中文学校举办心理健康讲座。请预留时间，想好问题哦。
自杀的事，孩子出走的事，都使我们警醒：What if someone already knew or suspected something but just didn’t tell the parents? How do we tell our friends about our suspicions without sounding offensive or annoying?
我尤其希望家长们和Nancy现场练习的就是：如果你知道朋友孩子的“不当行为”，怎么告知你的朋友。更重要的是如何提早发现孩子的心理状况，如何沟通？在微信群中常看到做母亲的参与心理健康讨论，却鲜有做父亲的声音。而青少年成长过程中父亲的角色至关重要，别放弃周日这样难得的机会哟。
这些不是传个录像能学到的，现场最好。而且越多练习越好。
密而本华夏中文学校将举办心理健康讲座
时间：11/19周日10-11:30am
地点：Millburn High School Cafeteria
主讲人：Nancy Kislin
Nancy曾经在微信群做了几次青少年心理健康、Vaping的讲座。她有多年心理咨询的实践，尤其了解本地初高中生的情况。她刚在Millburn，Livingston 等举办过关于Screenager, 13 Reasons Why，青少年酗酒抽烟吸毒器具展示（见下图）等一系列讲座。希望大家踊跃参加。
Nancy Kislin: psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, certified marriage and family therapist, parenting coach, infidelity expert, meditation teacher, and a professor with over 28 years of experience.
http://www.nancykislintherapy.com/
再看看下图里11岁华人女生自杀前写给父母的留言。她提到性取向，以及不愿成为家里负担。
下图里这位十四岁女生的笑颜永远留在了人们的脑海。但您可知她已策划自杀两年了。参加追思会的家长和同学们听她父亲讲至此处无不落泪。
我们的孩子们究竟怎么了？要用自杀来解脱？还有下面这些麻木自己的器具，不令人深思、不激发行动吗？
题图中Nancy展示是Wine Bra，女学生把酒藏在pad里带到party上。
上图：梳子底部有盖子，打开可以装酒。
各种新奇的器具。针管是往嘴里注射巧克力糖浆，看似无害，但据Nancy讲， It desensitizes youths to needles, in addition to getting large amount of sugar.
上图：Vaping器具。Millburn初中刚有三位学生在卫生间vape被学校发现。
上图：看似防晒霜瓶子被用来装酒。
上图：看似USB的vaping用具。
亲子群对青少年用手机的讨论
“Rates of teen depression and suicide have skyrocketed since 2011. It’s not an exaggeration to describe iGen （born 1995-2012) as being on the brink of the worst mental-health crisis in decades. Much of this deterioration can be traced to their phones.”
“There is compelling evidence that the devices we’ve placed in young people’s hands are having profound effects on their lives—and making them seriously unhappy.”
“12th-graders in 2015 were going out less often than eighth-graders did as recently as 2009.”
“But only about 56 percent of high-school seniors in 2015 went out on dates; for Boomers and Gen Xers, the number was about 85 percent.”
“Teens who spend more time than average on screen activities are more likely to be unhappy, and those who spend more time than average on nonscreen activities are more likely to be happy.”
“The more they’d used Facebook, the unhappier they felt, but feeling unhappy did not subsequently lead to more Facebook use.”
“Eighth-graders who are heavy users of social media increase their risk of depression by 27 percent.”
家长反馈：“Whatever little power parents have had as consumers and educators who want to have a dialogue and any control over device or games of this sort of impact in the past, has now completely gone. We are sitting ducks in front of the iphonian empire, erected by profits of gold, crafts of mine. The demand that drives it is so much that perhaps the window of opportunity is lost before anyone's got a chance to see it through. Perhaps Kaczynski was right all along, but even he had lacked the right skill to even communicate this threat, let alone finding a way to counter.”
下面几张flyers 是关于Vaping的信息，很多家长误以为vaping就是vaporized water，大不了就是电子香烟，但香烟很容易上瘾，据Nancy说三次vapes就相当于一支香烟的尼古丁浓度，更甚的是vape pens可以用来吸食marijuana oil and other drugs。
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